How to Survive Wedding Planning if You’re an Introvert


Lots of us are introverts, or are introverted enough that we might find planning a wedding exhausting.  Having to communicate with so many people about our relationship can be trying, especially when planning the day when we will be putting our intimate and personal relationship out there for all of our friends and family to see.  There are some ways we can keep stress levels down when planning a wedding if you are an introvert.


  • Plan the wedding for you. You and your partner are the ones who are getting married, so the wedding should be what you want.  Discuss your wishes and needs as a couple and do what you both want.  If you feel that you need a short guest list, or a low-key affair, or even an elopement, then that is your decision and nobody else’s.


  • Make a time line of the day. Check it over to make sure that you get a bit of down-time every now and again.  This might be before the ceremony, where you might want some time alone, or quiet time with just your parents or just your bridesmaids.  Or, it might be after the ceremony, for you to have some quiet time with your new spouse, to appreciate the big step you are taking.


  • Consider hiring a wedding planner. Lots of introverts might prefer to get to know their wedding planner well, and to only have to communicate their wishes to one person.  Then you can let them deal with all the other vendors on your behalf, and let them deal with the consultations and negotiations that you don’t enjoy.


  • Too much input can be unhelpful. Accept help where it is offered, but be sure that it is helpful.  But be selective about who you involve in the planning.  Advice is great, but introverts can find that listening to too many people can get overwhelming.


  • Party a little, then rest. Have your bachelorette or hen party at least a few weeks in advance of the wedding, to give yourself time to relax in between.  If you, can try to avoid other things like bridal showers, and other wedding get-togethers the night before the wedding.  If this means not having a rehearsal dinner the night before, and that appeals to you, then skip it.  Pre-wedding get-togethers can be a great opportunity for the busy couple to see some of the people that they might not have enough time to spend as much time with as they would like on their wedding day.  So, if you feel that these will take the stress off, then do it.


  • Have some quiet time in the last few days before the wedding. Many introverts can cope with one day of intensive social activity and attention, but it will certainly help if you have a few days of quiet to get your batteries fully charged!  Don’t fill your diary up with gatherings in the week before your wedding.  Take some time out.