Discuss things as a couple. Don’t be alone in taking responsibility for making all the decisions when planning your wedding. Talk to your partner about what you both want from your day, and make the decisions together, and sometimes you will have to compromise – that’s what a marriage is all about after all.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Think about the whole day and the bigger picture of what you want from your wedding. Don’t get caught up in worrying about the small details – nobody will notice any tiny touches anyway, your guests will just want to enjoy the day, have a big party and celebrate your love.
Accept help. If your nearest and dearest offer to help – either to help find a great venue, to offer vendor recommendations or just to come with you while you make the choices – then be gracious and let them do it.
Think about the elements of your wedding planning that are causing you the most stress, or the parts that are just not making you feel too enthusiastic, and just don’t do them! Have your partner choose the musician, let your mother order the flowers, ask your partner’s mother to deal with the favours.
Know what to spend on and what to save on. If you are keeping to a budget, think about the major features that will make your wedding yours – will it be your dress or the venue, or some special unique touches? And then think about the features of the day that will be less important to you, perhaps you can save by making your centrepieces yourself or ordering flowers in bulk? Save money on the less important features, I promise nobody will notice!
Remember that this is your day. You have to give some thought to the guests, and we all want them to have a great time on our wedding day, but don’t worry about doing things your way. They either had their turn or will get it in the future – this is your wedding, so if there’s something you want to do, then go for it!
Get some perspective. So many people think their wedding day is the most important day of their lives. Your wedding day is the first day of your marriage, so it’s worth keeping that in mind. Your marriage and your partner will be very important to you, not whether the flowers in your bouquet *exactly* match your shoes and ribbons!
Take time out. You don’t want to be rushing in to your wedding day in a flurry of panic and worry. You will only do this once (hopefully!) so slow down and truly experience this planning period. Maybe take a break to do something else for a little while, perhaps with your bridesmaids or your other half. If you do all your wedding planning in a panic then you won’t remember anything about it in ten years’ time!